Living From The Heart
“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt in the heart.” -Helen Keller
When going through recovery, it can overwhelming to consider all the wreckage and repair that it’s necessary to work on after you become sober. Not only are you working to become sober (which is no small thing!) which in itself requires a lot of ongoing work, motivation and support… you are also working to repair whatever it is in your life that was happening besides the addiction. For example, if you were in an abusive home situation, struggling with your job or money, as well as anxiety and depression while using drugs or alcohol…it will be necessary not only to work on sobriety, but on the home situation, job, finances and mental health.
…Essentially, all of the triggers that impacted your desire to use drugs or alcohol.
These triggers don’t magically disappear when you return home from rehab or whatever recovery program you are in. In reality, not only are you working on your addiction to the substance, you’re also working on the triggers in your life. Maybe you used drugs or alcohol to ‘deal’ with the triggers and numb the pain of the abusive relationship, financial stressors, or mental health problems, etc. So at the end of the day, it’s not just about confronting the addiction…it’s also about everything that triggered your cravings to begin with.
So how do you get through this? How do you not only recover from addiction, but also manage a potential mess of things when you are sober? One way to navigate the challenges you may confront when you are sober and ‘repairing’ the damage of hurt relationships, finances, employment, living situations, family circumstances, etc. is to connect with a sense of passion and purpose.
What drives you? What motivates you? What makes you feel like you care? …and follow this as best as you can.
Another way of putting this is to learn to be ‘heart-centered’ or connecting to your heart and living from this space, instead of just your mind. When we’re too intellectually focused or try to work everything out in our heads, not only can you get overwhelmed and stuck…but it can potentially trigger you to want to use drugs or alcohol again. When confronting life challenges and feeling overwhelmed and stressed…focus on what ‘feels’ most in line with who you are. Focus on what your ‘heart’ tells you to do. Learn to trust and listen to yourself- your ‘gut’. We have an understanding and knowing that won’t lead us in the wrong direction when we genuinely follow this.
The Heart Math Institute is an organization that works to support our connection to understanding the role that ‘following your heart’ has to success, happiness, wellbeing and health. They have online tools to help people better access and learn how to ‘live from the heart’. So for example when you are going through recovery and think about that abusive relationship, the bad job, the poor finances, the mental health difficulties…what does your ‘heart’ or your ‘gut’ say to do? Part of addiction comes from not listening to who we really are, and what we really need.
So try listening to yourself, listen to your ‘gut’! If you have years of drug and alcohol use behind you, as well as other past traumas and life stressors… it’s probably challenging to know how to listen to yourself. You may not be well practiced at it. Your ‘inner voice,’ ‘gut feeling’ or heart-centered living may not be very loud or clear at first. But with practice and focus everyday, the feelings and clarity become louder and easier to see.
The more you practice listening to yourself and being aware of what is best for you… the easier it gets and the more you’ll be living in alignment with who you really are, and your best life possible.
An important part of recovery is learning to trust and listen to yourself, and the people, places and circumstances that are really the best fit for you. This requires practice in your sobriety and gets easier over time. Silver Lining understands that you have spent a lot of time dealing with difficult emotions and triggers during your time using drugs and alcohol. These experiences impact your sobriety and a treatment plan for living your best life in recovery. Our policy of treating small numbers of people in each group allows us to get to know you and the exact type of help you need to learn to be kind to yourself and achieve your goals. We help you flourish now and in the future. Let our Huntington Beach location be where you begin again! Call us today for more information. (866) 448-4563.