Loneliness and Sobriety
“We human beings are social beings. We come into the world as the result of others’ actions. We survive here in dependence on others. Whether we like it or not, there is hardly a moment of our lives when we do not benefit from others’ activities. For this reason, it is hardly surprising that most of our happiness arises in the context of our relationships with others.” – Dalai Lama XIV
No one probably wants to admit when they are feeling lonely or disconnected. Fear of loneliness or isolation can lead us to participate in unhealthy activities or be around people who are not good for us. When we are active in our addiction, our friends and most of the people in our lives may likely be using too. Sometimes the only way we can break the cycle of addiction, drugs and alcohol is to meet new people who are also sober and who participate in positive, uplifting activities.
But also, we may find that our drug and alcohol use itself is what isolates us and creates our loneliness. The more we use, the more it pushes people away in our lives or we can only surround ourselves with people who are also drinking and using drugs. It changes our whole social environment so that we end up either using drugs or alcohol alone or being surrounded by people who are also using. Either way, this is a recipe and set up for a very unhealthy and toxic social environment that either worsens addiction or worsens feelings of being disconnected from the rest of the world. Your world becomes more and more limited until drugs and alcohol are more or less the center of everything.
Some ways to decrease loneliness while you are in recovery include:
- Active and regular participation in 12-step meetings
- Meeting new people who are sober and want to do healthy social activities
- Try new activities you haven’t done before that don’t involve any drugs or alcohol
- Make amends to anyone you have hurt in your life who was sober and you used to be close to and try to reconnect with them
- Participate in volunteering and giving back
- Find a mentor or sponsor you connect with who can support you in the recovery journey
- Learn to be at peace with feelings of loneliness or emptiness…it’s possible it was non-acceptance of these feelings that led to substance abuse in the first place
At Silver Lining Recovery, we prioritize a safe and relaxed environment to promote a calm and supportive recovery experience. Our professional staff members are trained in creating customized treatment plans, specific to the individualized needs and goals of our clients. Our team seeks to identify and treat the underlying causes and conditions that led to addiction, as a means of supporting long-lasting recovery. With numerous services and treatment modalities, including EMDR, CBT, DBT, and other alternative healing methods, we are confident in our ability to create a plan that will work for you. Call us today for more information, at (866) 729-8577.